January 4, 2008

When I work with my coaching clients, I spend a good deal of time focusing on the things that influence them in their day-to-day lives. One of the realities of living in a world full of constant stimulation is that unless we remain conscious of it, we can come under the influence of things and people without fully realizing it. I find that one of the most harmful influences that we encounter are "toxic people." Toxic people are always complaining and blaming others for things in their lives. They are highly judgmental and consistently talk about other people in negative terms.

Toxic people seem to attract and perpetuate negativity no matter where they go. Because they are operating from a place of energy deficit, they are attracted to the energy of others. Unfortunately, without realizing it, toxic people rob other people of their energy without giving anything back in return. Toxic people more often than not, bring tension and stress and disorder to your day. They serve to extinguish your hopes and dreams and try and dissuade you from taking the necessary steps to build your perfect life. In short, they try and bring you down to their level rather than allowing you to reach new heights. When interacting with toxic people, you are left feeling zapped and drained of your vital life energy.

Unfortunately, you cannot "fix" a toxic person...no matter how much yoof your to. So in spite ofyour best intentions, you are wasting precious time and energy when you try and change their way of being and raise their standard of living. Accordingly, if you have toxic people in your sphere of influence, steer clear of them! Rather, surround yourself with people who believe in themselves... people who share your vision for creating a most beautiful life... people who will celebrate who you are and who you are becoming.. people who are also on a path of growth and enlightenment. Protect your energy so that you can use it to create your perfect life. Remember that you are worthy of the best this world has to offer. And so it is.